day 05- A thank you letter to someone who has changed your life
You were not planned and not expected.
You were gone as soon as we knew you were there.
Maybe you knew without knowing that our life was not quite ready for you yet.
I think of you more often than I ever thought I would. I wonder what life would have been if you had become a part of our lives.
I would never have been able to decide to wait. You must’ve known it wasn’t the right time. So you made the choice we never could have. You left us with nothing but a memory, and none of us will ever know what might have been.
They said you were never more than a few cells. You never even had a heartbeat.
But I still think about you. I think of your hair, your chubby hands. Trucks and mud. Barbies and lipstick. All the toys and diapers.
And I think of the gift you gave us, in giving us a few more years.
I wonder if there’s a shadow of you in what would have been your little sister. I wonder if you’d have had the curls she does. If you’d have still been in our bed when she came along.
Thank you for the minute we had with you. Thank you for the perspective you gave me on what life is.
I don’t know if I believe in an afterlife, but if there is one, you are well met. You have great grandparents who are no doubt loving every minute I’ve missed.
And if there is something after this, I can’t wait to hold you.
Thank you. I love you still.