Pornographer

Yesterday, something happened that I never expected.

I mean, it’s not something anyone would have expected because it’s just so random.

I got an email from Ava’s teacher, and lo, Ava drew a naked lady at recess.
As her sentence, she has to miss activity period today.

So, I asked her about it when she got home. Apparently some boy had said he could draw a better naked lady than she could, and my girl would not be outdone. So the lady was drawn.

The thing is, I’m not so bothered by the naked lady. The kid has probably seen me naked (child abuse) a thousand times, not to mention Barbies and dolls and pictures of paintings (culture, people). I’m more bothered by the fact that she let herself be put into the situation to do something because someone else wanted her to.

Although now that I think about it, why is it such a big deal? Isn’t this what breeds such forbidden fascination with ding dongs and hoohas and wahoos? Besides, I mean, is naked such a forbidden thing? I’m pretty sure everyone is totally naked at least every other day. If not, well, those are your issues.

These are my thoughts, anyway. I suppose I’d feel differently if she’d drawn some “Dear Penthouse” nudie show, but this doesn’t seem like such a big deal to me. Am I wrong?

11 thoughts on “Pornographer

  1. Please bear in mind that I know NOTHING WHATSOEVER about child-rearing but… it seems like such a NOT big deal to me. She had to miss activity period for drawing a naked lady? REALLY? For expressing herself? I would be pissed about that. A kid drawing is not a full scale porn shoot. They need to get over it.

  2. This is what I sent her today.

    Actually now that I think about it, unless the drawing was explicit or sexual, I’m having a hard time thinking she deserves to miss activity class.

    I’ve asked several people and I know that I’m not making light of this. Everyone is naked. Frequently. It’s normal for kids to be curious, especially when it’s something that is deemed to be so taboo. Perhaps the best response would have been, “let’s draw people with clothes on when we’re at school.”

    Please know I’m not angry. I just don’t want to punish my kid for normal kid-ness.

    Now, we wait.

  3. Response from the teacher. Unedited.

    I will send it home at let you decide. You know what you deem acceptable for your child.  I just didn’t think it was something that they needed to be drawing  and talking about.  I will not make her miss activity. Thanks for your concern.

  4. I think you handled the situation well. I also think that the teacher is a bit uptight. As long as the picture was of a graphic sexual nature (which would lead one to question other things), then I think it was perfectly normal. Did the boy who said he could draw a better lady equally punished? This whole country needs to lighten up!

  5. The drawing was, well, a naked lady. The end. It was just a naked woman. I had been worried about sexual innuendos and whatnot, but no. Which makes me glad I spoke up.

    Ava says the other kid was punished, but she also said he called the teacher a bitch. So who knows what that kid’s deal is.

  6. In the end it sounds like both you and the teacher handled it well.
    Nakedness is natural and not something I think we should teach our kids to be ashamed of… but I do teach mine to keep their shirts on / legs closed in dresses, obviously.

  7. Wow, let me tell you – drawing a nude picture is waaaaaaay more awful than calling someone a bitch. Sheesh. My kindergartener gets all uptight about being naked. He thinks I will laugh at him if I see him nude. I’m like, “Dude! You were born that way!” Obvs, I have a very relaxed attitude about nudity.

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